Okay, these days the language of love overwhelms me. (Please bring back syntax in dating!) SO, in an effort to get my readers to empathize…
I’ve put in some screenshots of actual online dating language.
Please know that my goal is to show what I (a writer who loves punctuation and full sentences) am up against in the dating pool.
Online websites should permanently install Grammarly in EVERY aspect of the site (for those of us who have sensitivities to errant spelling and punctuation).
But, they don’t. So, I’m going to show you.
Here goes nothing…
What is the aversion to capitalization and punctuation in the language of love?
Ironically, lack of capitalization/ punctuation comes in the wake of increasing technology whereby humankind talks more via typing than by vocal exchange. Hence, I don’t really understand today’s language of love. Is full sentence formation that abhorrent?
To clarify, I will admit a deep, dark secret: appropriate use of punctuation is part of my dating criteria.
I know, I know it’s ridiculous. “Must love Jesus and understand the appropriate use of an apostrophe as well as your vs. you’re.” (it’s like nails on a chalkboard, people). But, I am who I am.
The Language of Love is Full of Strange Sentences
Often times, though appropriate capitalization and punctuation are present, I cannot tell what would-be suitors are saying. Many people may be victims of voice-to-text errors, but how does this occur in your profile?
The Repeat Offenders in Dating
On occasion, it’s not an issue of grammar. To illustrate, I’ve run across three (maybe four) short profiles, which contain grammatical accuracy. However, I’ve seen each of these profiles over 10-12 times each…
Is there a dial-a-profile web page out there for people too busy or apathetic to write a few sentences about themselves?
Genesis 2:18 The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
I hope Genesis 2:18 isn’t God’s way of telling me I need to be my future husband’s editor. Ha! (can you even imagine?!?!)
Okay, so the errant profiles and messages are a little bit hysterical. But, there’s some truth in it also.
If a person can’t take an extra 30 seconds to make sure their six-line profile looks and reads appropriately, what kind of best foot forward will they put in a relationship?
Relationships are difficult and require the work of two people. Is how we portray ourselves in the beginning a reflection of the type of partner we’ll become? In conclusion, I think it is.
There will always be outliers (not everyone excelled in English and typos happen), but on the whole, the level of effort someone puts in will likely be the level of effort they continue to put in. I’ve prolonged relationships believing my significant other was more invested than their actions revealed.
Truthfully though, their actions told the real story.
How likely are you to dig in when the stakes are high? Excellence is in the millimeters not in the miles.
I refuse to give up in the face of adversity, but is dating in this day and age hopeless???
(i guess ill never know )
Love, K.
Oh. My. Goodness. Sorry, but I couldn’t resist the syntax joke there K.A. My suggestion sweet friend; run, don’t walk away from these folks. I know I get in more trouble with things I write than say most days, but some of these were downright “scary.” Stay strong, principled, and remember to never settle. God has the right person in mind for you; you just haven’t found him yet. Oh, and I am so very glad I no longer date. I’d be in big trouble.
Thank you for the encouragement!!!
WOW! This is an interesting and fun post. Being in my 49th year of marriage (to the same man) I’ve never fool with dating sites and am glad.
I wish you well.
You are an inspiration and encouragement!
When I first started texting, I resisted the abbreviations, using numbers for words, and the loss of capital letters. I’ve held to that. I suppose it’s the teacher in me–I don’t like grammar, composition, or spelling errors. Sadly, I expect you and I are in the minority. I wish I had some magic dust to toss your way. Keep persevering my friend and PRAY!
I’ve resisted in the same fashion! Some of the stuff I’ve seen goes way beyond abbreviations though! I guess I want to feel valued and worth some effort, even if he does abbreviate! 🙂
K.A. Thank you for this clever and hilarious post. I’ve been married for almost 30 years to my hubby, Scott. We both agree it’s brutal “out there.” No matter how much he bugs me sometimes, I’d never trade him in.
It can be brutal out there! You are an example for all of us!
K. A., Oh my! There weren’t dating sites and profiles when I was single—way back when… I met my husband on a summer project. I got to know him by watching how he interacted with and led our team. A picture worth more than a thousand profiles. 🙂
Yes, a picture is worth more than a thousand profiles! I learned that the hard way!
Ur making way two big of a deal about this, Kelly.
ryan dont bee ridikulus