Balance Your Relationship Bank Accounts

Ever heard of a relationship bank accounts? This concept was brought to my attention a few years ago. But, let’s back up a bit…

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When I was preparing to leave for college, my dad gave me some sage advice. He lowered his newspaper one evening and said, “Make sure you budget your loan checks at college. If you run out of money, you’ll be coming home.” I took this advice to heart and I became a master budgeter. This skill has helped me in life second only to my education.

My question… do we do this in relationships?

Your Relationship Account

While we may keep our bank account in the black, it’s easy to lose track of our relationship accounts. We all have that friend who only contacts us when they need something. If their bases are covered, we see neither head nor tail of them. Or how about that friend who never does anything we ask but gets frustrated when we are unable to help them?

Is there a better way?

Instead of hoping that we have enough relational credit when something bad comes along (as it will), we should focus on giving of ourselves when we are in plenty.

How do we do that?

Be Intentional

1. Keep a calendar

Keep a calendar with people’s important dates on it: job interviews, doctor’s appointments, and important events. That way you can remember to check with them and see how they are doing. I think most of us have the heart to do this but just not the brain capacity to remember. The calendar will help.

2. Use a Friend App

I have one of these on my phone after I missed praying for a certain prayer request. There are 7 or 8 people listed in the app, and I pick how often I want to keep in contact with them. I get a little alert when I’ve been out of touch for too long. It also keeps track of prayer requests. It’s a good reminder to me that I need to check in with my people.

3. Let It Go

If you perceive that someone has done you wrong, don’t harbor an offense. Truthfully, they may feel the same way about your behavior. Make the effort to discuss it and forgive them. It’s not worth holding onto.

Relationships and connections are the best parts of life. Invest in those around you and make sure you’re pouring into your people.

Love, K.

Author of Ten Iron Principles, Contributor in The Power to Make a Difference